Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Three will not enter Paradise: he who is disrespectful to his parents, he who lets his wife fornicate with another, and women who affect masculinity.” [Hakim]
Commentary: The onslaught of western culture primarily through cable T.V. and movies, inculcates in children from a very early age a disrespectful attitude towards parents. Parents are portrayed as old-fashioned, “not-with-it,” and foolish, despite their countless favours on their children. Children should be taught to guard their place in Paradise by developing and maintaining a respectful attitude towards their parents.
It has become a mark of being “cultured” and “civilized” to flaunt an immodestly clad wife to friends, co-workers, and relatives. Other men enjoy her company while her husband feels no jealousy (Ghairat) for his rights. Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) tells us that there is no good in such a man.
Not granted their God-given right to be financially taken care of by their male relatives, women have had to join the work force and abandon their homes and children. As a result they have been exploited in the male dominated work force and taken to assuming masculinity to safeguard themselves as well as to prove themselves. In short, the family structure has broken down and since an intact family structure is the basis of a psychologically healthy society, societies are experiencing nervous breakdowns. In the west, single parenthood, the abuse of children, rampant rape, shootings in schools, and psychopathic killings have become the norm, while Muslim societies blindly imitating western culture are on the same path to destruction.
When society is structured on man-made rules and norms its break down becomes inevitable. Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) tells us through this hadith how to safeguard the family and society.